Your Highest, Best Use

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I know I said I was back…about three months ago.  Yeah, well…uh…let’s move on. 😀

Anyway, you’ve heard the term “highest best use” right?  It’s a real estate thing, I think.  It doesn’t matter.  It just means making the most out of something, like a piece of property.  Kind of like maximizing it’s use for the highest profit or maybe the most dwelling units or whatever.

Let’s apply that to your life.  Is you job your highest, best use?  Maybe it is.  Maybe you’re a rocket scientist or a brain surgeon.  You’re doing something amazing with your skill, your talent and your education.  I can only assume people who put that much effort into becoming something must love it.

So couple their love of their work with maximized potential and you’ve got highest, best use.  But what if you don’t love your work or you’re not realizing your full potential…or both?

Maybe you’d rather be doing something else entirely.  You hate doing your job but you’re good at it.  So you keep doing it and they keep promoting you and giving you more responsibility.  Highest and best use?

Or you love your work but you’re not being used to your full potential.  You know you can do more, better work.  You know you can make a difference but it’s not happening.  Myopic boss, red tape or personal conflict might be the reason.  Highest and best use?

Nope!  How can you give your all at a job you hate?  How can you really be happy if you’re not realizing your potential?  You can’t.  Your highest and best use lies elsewhere.  You are spinning your wheels and wasting your time.

But hey, this a retirement blog, not a career coaching blog.  Well, consider that your highest and best use might be something entirely different.  Maybe it’s not a job or a career at all.  I’ve said it before…go ahead and read my old posts…maybe retirement is where you make a difference.

But how, you might ask.  In retirement you’re not productive, you’re not working.  How can you make a difference?  Well, making a difference isn’t only measured in widgets produced or gizmos sold.  Hours worked doesn’t mean you’re doing anything truly worthwhile.  You’ve seen those guys leaning on shovels and wearing orange vests on the side of the road, right?

Maybe your highest best use isn’t working for a living anymore.  There are so many ways, big and small, to make an impact in people’s lives.  Sharing your creativity, your wisdom and your inspiration isn’t worthless.  Having a direct effect on real people’s lives isn’t meaningless.  Living your dreams has value.

Is what you do at work so important that you’d really be missed?  I’m sure a lot of people would answer yes but it’s usually not true.  Besides, there’s some young kid out there looking for work.  They’re hungry and ambitious.  Maybe they even really love doing what you have learned to hate.  Maybe they have a passion for it.

So, are you wasting precious time engaged in work that isn’t your highest and best use?  Has your enjoyment and productivity waned as you aged?  Maybe it’s time to move on and do something else.  Something your passionate about…maybe something that doesn’t earn a paycheck.

Ultimately, it’s your decision.  Only you can decide if your time and effort might be better spent with your spouse instead of at the office or traveling the world instead of going on business trips or maybe writing that book instead of writing another proposal.  But remember, if you’re not engaged in something that is your highest and best use you’re wasting your time and effort.  You’re wasting your life.

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I’m Back!

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I’m so surprised at how many people still read and leave comments on this blog.  It’s staggering.  There are a lot of people, apparently, looking for answers about retirement.  I’m not surprised.  Working sucks and after being retired for over six years, I couldn’t imagine going back to that life.  I was miserable.  I chose my career based on happenstance.  I should have taken a chance when I was 21 or so and gone back to school to become a graphic artist.  But I didn’t.  I’m retired now but how many years did I waste doing something I barely tolerated?

img_2155But I’ve gained new perspective since I retired and stopped writing this blog.  I’ve done and continue to do the things I preached about.  My wife quit her job a year and a half ago.  We kicked our kids out of the house (on good terms) and sold the house last fall.  We live in an Apartment in Reno, Nevada, and are actively planning to buy a motorhome and hit the open road next year.  I began writing fiction and self-published several novels.  I stopped that when the self-publishing market became to difficult and frustrating to compete in and now we have a YouTube channel.  I loved writing and now, I love making videos.

Life isn’t perfect.  My dad contracted a horrible staff infection last summer and spent four month in the hospital.  It was a real challenge getting our sons off on their own.  Selling our house was full of ups and downs.  My wife, Jen, had complications from her gall bladder surgery that lasted 11 months.  We’ve had issues with our extended families.  And, as I’ve alluded to in the past on this blog, I suffered from back-related pain…sort of.  That’s life!

But I’ve done things I’ve always wanted…like publish a novel or many as the case may be.  We’ve traveled.  We’ve spent time with our kids and been able to support them as they transitioned to the Marines and the other to college, though not often (thank God) monetarily.  We’ve taken long hikes, explored many places and spent quiet evenings watching the sun set, smoking a fine cigar and enjoying some craft beer (me, not the wife).  Life is good.

I’m practicing what I preached and I’m doing it with far less money than a lot of people retire on.  We’re not poor but we’re not rich either.  We’ve had to make sacrifices and hard choices.  For instance, we love to travel and RVing will allow us to travel a lot more than we could with a house.  We’ve had to make those kind of choices and we’ve made them.  We do what makes us happy and what is important to us, not what we’re expected to do or what others demand.  We live life on our terms and within our means.  We are making the most of our relative youth (I’m 50, can you believe it?) while we still can.  We are making memories and having experiences.  That’s all that really matters in the end.  Not money, fancy cars, big houses, golf club memberships, expensive toys, Facebook or being up in the latest new show on Netflix.

dscn2192Those things aren’t bad in and of themselves.  If you have the money, enjoy it.  If you love golf or sports cars, indulge.  I have a $40,000 Jeep Wrangler for Pete’s sake because I love Jeeps (paid for thanks to the sale of our home).  But those things are what the rest of society tells you are important to be happy.  The signals are everywhere.  Even retirement planners are pushing that stuff.  It’s all meaningless when you’re on your death bed.  You won’t wax poetic about having high speed internet or the heated seats in your Mercedes (yes, my Jeep has heated seats).  You definitely won’t regret retiring on a shoestring budget to do what you want when you want.

You’ll remember time spent with your spouse, family and friends.  You’ll remember the experiences you’ve had, like seeing Yosemite for the first time or that nude beach you and your partner sneaked off to or all the sunrises you witnessed.  You’ll remember the people that you love and the amazing things you did.  Money is superfluous.  It’s a means to an end, nothing more.  Possessing it doesn’t make you happy and happiness doesn’t require it.  Retirement, however you define it, is it’s own reward.  The freedom it provides, if you let it, is invaluable.  It is not boring.  It is not depressing.  It most certainly is not the end.  Unless you decide it is.

So, when are you going to pull the plug and get on with your life?

With that, expect more from me in the future.  I don’t know how often I’ll post but I’ve got more to say.  I hope some of you will find inspiration or courage in my musings.

Moving On!

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IMG_4117I’m moving on.  I’ve had a good time blogging about retirement over the last few years.  I like to think I’ve helped a few people making the decision to retire and offered some good advice, even if I don’t always follow it myself.  As I’ve said, retirement isn’t the end, it’s the beginning.  I’ve transitioned completely into a comfortable groove and I was running out of sage advice.  So, I’m no longer going to update this blog.  I will however be consolidating all my blogging activity on my main blog, Fly Fish Nevada.

This blog will remain up until WordPress pries it from my cold, dead ha…OK, maybe that’s a little dramatic but you get the idea.  I will likely begin a blog to detail our transition from a stick house to an RV but that’s a few years off.  In the meantime, I will be blogging over at Fly Fish Nevada.   Not just about fishing either.  I’ll probably throw out the occasional retirement post, posts about life in general, whatever.  I hope you join me over there.  If you’ve found this blog for the first time, feel free to browse and read what’s here.  It’s still applicable.

Thanks for reading.

 

An Update on the Back

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The new bike that allows me to get a lot more exercise than I can walking.

The new bike that allows me to get a lot more exercise than I can walking and with no pain.

I saw my surgeon last week, well his assistant anyway, and it was good.  She was happy to see I’ve been improving.  In her words, I beat the odds.  She said most people move towards surgery, not away from it.  I’m moving away.  It’s funny.  Pretty much everyone, my surgeon, his assistant, my two physical therapists, everyone, says back surgery is not a good thing, especially spinal fusion.  I agree.  You do it because you have to.

I educated myself and decided against it.  I think many doctors in our litigation happy society play it safe.  If the patient wants it, they do it. More

Moving on Without Going under the Knife

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Enjoying Disneyland with Jen. No we didn’t just get off Splash Mountain, it was raining.

As I detailed last time, I have decided to forgo surgery on my back.  I wanted to wait to do some physical therapy before posting again.  I also planned a trip to Disneyland since I wasn’t having surgery and wanted to contrast that trip with the one I took last year.  It was a memorable experience and I could easily compare the trips to see if things have improved or not.

Physical therapy first.  I’m doing water therapy, basically exercises done in a warm pool to strengthen my back and abdominal muscles.  The water helps stabilize your body and lessen the impact.  I’m doing well and I can tell it’s working because it leaves me tired and sore, but only for a few hours.  Mostly it’s stretches and basic core building exercises. More

More Decisions and a New Attitude

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I was finally able to speak with my surgeon last week.  It was very productive and I got some bad news and some good news.  I’m not having surgery in the near future.  That’s part of the good news, but the bad news first.  I wanted to take care of the herniated disk and try some non-surgical methods to attack my slipped vertebrae.  Unfortunately, the surgeon showed me that I have bones spurs that are also pinching the L5 nerve and he’s afraid removing those will destabilize my back requiring the fusion.  Wonderful.

The good news is those bone spurs are helping to hold my back stable and preventing further slippage.  I don’t have to worry about the problem getting worse.  The surgeon also agrees that physical therapy is likely a good approach and might even further stabilize or even reverse the slippage.  That’s good to hear.  So, this week I’m beginning water therapy.  Not totally sure what that is, but is obviously involves water and therapy.  I’m also continuing my exercise regimen, losing weight and taking further steps to either avoid the pain or help improve it.

Until last week, I was coming at this from the standpoint that surgery was the answer.  A simple removal of part of my herniated disk is relatively straight forward and I’d done all I could do otherwise to fix it.  But now, that surgery has become much more complicated and I don’t want it.  That has changed my attitude.  Now I am determined to do everything I can to avoid or at least postpone surgery for as along as I can.  That means changing the way I sleep, sit, eat, you name it.

I suppose now this blog will change with me.  Instead of documenting my surgery and recovery, it will document my efforts to avoid those.  I’ve got a lot of ideas and theories.  I honestly already feel better and part of that is surely my attitude.  I walked two miles today.  No stopping to squat down and relieve the pain and when I got home, it hurt but it was manageable.  I’m hoping with the help of the therapist, I can find other ways to improve.  I’ll talk about some of my ideas next time.  Hopefully all this will help someone decided for themselves and maybe help them avoid a serious surgery.

I’ve Made a Decision About my Back Surgery

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I’ve spent the last week or so contemplating my back surgery.  I scheduled surgery for November 5th, 2012 and I was scheduled to have a partial diskectomy (shaving off the bulge on my L5-S1 disk) and a have my L4-L5 joint fused.  Well, spinal fusion is a big deal.  I’ve read so many negative things about it and the pain and recovery are intense.  I read one study that said the average recovery 15 months!  Additionally, fusing one joint puts more strain on the surrounding joints and many people have additional fusions to fix the problems the first fusion causes.

I have leg pain consistent with a pinched L5 nerve, the nerve that exits the spine between vertebrae L-5 and S-1.  Just so happens I also have a herniated disk right there and on the same side the pain is on.  The evidence seems to point to that herniated disk.  I also have that slipped disk and my spine is offset slightly just above that, but I have no pain I can associate with that.  The L4 nerve, the one that exits between L-4 and L-5, runs down your leg also, but in different areas.  I have no pain in those areas and no significant back pain.

Back surgery is usually  a last resort.  I’ve tried exercise, chiropractic care, anti-inflammatories, physical therapy and a cortisone shot to help that leg pain and none worked.  Surgery makes sense, especially because the surgery for the herniated disk is fairly straight forward.  Spinal fusion is not so straight forward and I’ve never tried to fix the problem, a problem I wasn’t even aware of before the surgeon took an x-ray to help him with my herniated disk surgery, with non-surgical methods.  I haven’t done specific exercises, lost weight or done any physical therapy, decompression, etc.

I should though.  Without specific pain and without any non-surgical treatment for the slipped disk and offset vertebrae, I can’t see doing something so invasive and recovery intensive.  If I had debilitating pain from that problem, even then I’d try non-surgical techniques first.  Spinal fusion is serious business and can cause other problems.  The failure rate is relatively high.  I’m 46 and I have a lot of time left to live and do damage the surrounding joints that would have to work harder to make up for the fused joint.  I don’t want to spend the rest of my life climbing up my spine with fusions or cause a new problem to fix something that really isn’t a problem.

I’ve contacted my surgeon and I’m waiting hear back.  I’m hoping they will go along with my wishes and see my logic.  If not, I’ll find another surgeon.  I would have to hear a lot to change my mind.  People, maybe even you, live with slipped disks, compressed disks, herniated disks, etc. without any symptoms or with manageable symptoms.  I’d rather lose weight (4.6 lbs so far), do physical therapy, even take mild painkillers than spend 12 months in pain and recovery.  I’m young and I’d rather be out doing stuff.

So, that’s the latest update.  I’ll post again after I discuss this with my surgeon, hopefully today or Monday, and see what’s what.  Oh, by the way, if my medical terminology is off, please excuse me.

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